I know. It’s exhausting.
We’re waking up to a daily barrage of changes that seem to terrify us more with each passing day. We’ve been wearily waiting to see if our country will still have health care. We are enraged by the direct attacks on our transgender friends. We’re holding our breath to see what’s coming next. It’s hard not to feel hopeless.
Sometimes I slip/take a dramatic swan dive into the deep waters of feeling completely unable to do anything about what’s happening in this beautiful country I love. Everything can seem overwhelming. In those dark moments, I take a deep breath and remember what we set out to do in the fervor of the days long before November.
In that beautiful time of hope, I gathered my trusted team of lady friends and told them my vision for Sassy Pants. It was an idea baby I had been carrying for a long, long time and didn’t know when/how I could make it happen. But I knew I needed a team. We started moving forward with nothing but enthusiasm, riding the exciting wave of momentum of our first female President.
But then it all went to shit. We started November 8th with such hope and then it all turned so quickly. We were together and terrified and didn’t know what to make of all of it. In the post-election haze we were quiet and scared.
But since that November day we’ve rebounded with a fierce optimism. We realized that acting on our vision was the best way that we could bring about change in a world that wants to tell women what to do with their bodies and the shame we’re supposed to feel walking around in them.
But counter to this and in a fashion extraordinarily uncharacteristic of my personality, I’ve been exceedingly shy about the political nature of Sassy Pants. I think my gut reaction has been to shield us from any potential backlash in a great maternal instinct to protect this long held vision. But we couldn’t standby while our current administration is furthering the oppression of the already oppressed, stirring up violence and prejudice. I realized that what we were doing was inherently political and I couldn’t shy away from it anymore.
The most political thing a woman can do is to take control of her body. To love and embrace it just right as it is. Curating environments of shame, “wrongness”, and inferiority have been the name of the control game for as long as we can remember. These tactics have easily pushed and pulled women in conflicting directions, pitting us against each other to ensure more destruction. This, more than anything else, has been making us all sick. In our bodies, in our minds, in our spirits. This is not how we should be living.
So yes, we’re political. But our politics is simple and our mission is clear. We believe that women of any shape, size, skin color, race, gender, sexuality, ability, age, status, and religion are good and worthy. Shame and hate have no place in what we do.
We’re a company and community of and for women. We are innately feminist. Our feminism is about celebrating all that we, as women, are. Intersectional identities are central to that celebration and we aim to never exclude anyone from this community. Identifying as a woman is all you need to do to be celebrated here. We are all connected by that but diverge rapidly into our many affinities, identities, and preferences. That’s a good thing! We want to celebrate ANY woman for who and what she is and strives to be. We here at Sassy Pants are Democrats, Republicans, and Independents. Lesbian and straight. We face chronic illness and push ourselves to be better friends every day. We love running and watching TV. We disagree daily.
We want to be a force for positive change in the world. Our shared vision and mission, our relentless hard work, and our differences will get us there. We want you to be a part of that. Won’t you join us?
Nancy Calderone is the CEO of Sassy Pants. She's convinced that powerful change for good happens when you rally your most trusted lady friends and make a few dozen Google Docs. When she's not training for a triathlon or marathon, she enjoys a night at home with the world's largest bowl of popcorn, a bottle of wine, and Season 2 of the West Wing.